Top Tips for Understanding Your Baby’s Unique Sleep Needs
By Claire Fair, the Gentle Sleep Coach
As a gentle sleep coach for babies, I’ve seen countless parents struggle with baby sleep advice that doesn’t seem to fit their child. From pregnancy onwards, parents are bombarded with advice around sleep routines focused on what I consider to be the biggest misconception in the world of baby sleep: that there is a one-size-fits-all sleep schedule for babies at certain ages.
Many parents are told that following strict, age-appropriate awake times will result in a perfectly sleeping baby. If only it were that simple! The truth is, babies are individuals with varying needs and temperaments, which significantly impact their sleep patterns.
What Science Says About Baby Sleep Needs
In 2015, a panel of 18 specialists from leading organizations reviewed over 300 publications to update official sleep recommendations. Their findings, published in the Sleep Health Journal, provide average sleep durations for different age groups:
- Newborns: 14-17 hours in a 24-hour period
- 4-11 Months: 12-15 hours in a 24-hour period
- 1-2 years: 11-14 hours in a 24-hour period
- 3-5 years: 10-13 hours in a 24-hour period
Importantly, the panel noted that sleep needs could vary by up to 2 hours on either side of these averages. This means there can be up to an 8-hour variation in sleep needs within each age bracket!
Given this wide range of normal sleep needs, it’s clear that a one-size-fits-all approach simply doesn’t work. Trying to force your child into a prescribed schedule can lead to stress and overwhelm for parents, wasted time trying to settle a baby who isn’t tired and nighttime sleep issues like split nights, early rising or frequent waking.
I tell the parents that I work with that we can’t force low sleep needs children to need more sleep, just as we can’t make high sleep needs children happy with less. Neither end of the spectrum is better than the other – sleep needs just are what they are for individual babies.
So where to from here? How do you determine your baby’s unique sleep needs? Here are my top tips:
- Track Your Baby’s Natural Rhythms
Instead of following generic schedules, keep a basic sleep diary for a few days. The CuboAi Smart Baby Monitor can be incredibly helpful here, as it provides sleep reports without pushing generic awake time recommendations. This data can give you valuable insights into your baby’s unique patterns.
- Observe Your Baby’s Mood
Are they happy and thriving with their current sleep patterns? If so, they’re likely getting the sleep they need, even if it doesn’t match a standard schedule. I also advise paying attention to how your baby wakes up, both from naps and during the night.
Do they wake really calm, content and seem ‘wide awake’ perhaps even taking a long time to resettle? This could be a clue they need a little more sleep pressure by reducing the duration of day sleeps or stretching to longer awake times.
Do they wake extremely upset and dysregulated? While this can be attributed to many things, one cause could be too much sleep pressure and supporting longer naps and shorter awake times may help!
Of course, this is tricky to work out in the middle of the night, which is where something like the CuboAi monitor’s 18 hour playback feature can be a fantastic tool, allowing you to scroll back over the night just passed and observe how your baby is waking to piece this part of the puzzle together.
- Understand the Signs of Lower and higher sleep needs
Your baby might have lower sleep needs if:
- Their sleep totals are on the low end of average
- They’re happy and content during awake times
- They don’t show tired cues and can stay awake longer than average between sleeps
- They sleep better at night with less daytime sleep
For these babies, consider basing naps and bedtimes on their actual needs, not a generic schedule. Experiment with more awake time or reduced day sleep.
On the flip side, your baby might need more sleep if:
- They’re unhappy during awake times
- They fall asleep instantly for naps and bedtime
- They need lots of support to calm down
- They show frequent tired cues
For these babies, try taking a few days of fully assisted naps (in cars, prams, carriers, etc.) and adjusting the sleep environment to encourage longer daytime sleeps could be helpful.
Again, CuboAi can provide sleep analysis of both daytime and nighttime sleeps which can be really helpful in looking at patterns and how any changes to routine affect sleep outcomes.
- Rule Out Other Factors
To make sure there are no other factors at play, you’ll want to ensure good sleep hygiene and rule out any environmental factors that might be making sleep tricky, such as temperature.
The CuboAi’s Smart Temp, a medical-grade thermal sensor you can clip onto your baby, measures your baby’s body temperature so you can be confident you don’t need to make any changes here as we know that a baby who is too hot or too cold may wake more frequently.
The CuboAi Smart Baby Monitor will also notify you of any temperature and humidity changes in the room and send alerts straight to your phone while your baby sleeps.
- Trust your instincts
Remember, you’re the expert on your baby. While technology can provide valuable data, ultimately, you know your baby best. Trust your instincts and don’t be afraid to deviate from “standard” advice if it’s not working for your family.
In conclusion, understanding your baby’s unique sleep needs is a journey. It requires observation, patience, and a willingness to adapt. With these tips and the support of tools like the CuboAi Smart Baby Monitor, you can navigate this journey with confidence, ensuring your baby gets the sleep they need to thrive.
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